Disobedience to parents (uquq al-walidayn)

Sheikh Omar Abdelkafy presents disobedience to parents as the opposite of honouring them, and says that Paradise is forbidden to one who disobeys his parents. ¹

The Sheikh counts it as disobedience when a father or mother goes to sleep angry with his or her child. ¹ He counts as disobedience a glance at father or mother that is harsh, full of anger or defiance, and cites a saying on this. ² He says that however high a child's academic degrees, the parents are the ones who taught and raised him. ³ He warns against calling a son who struck his father or disobeyed his mother a good son. ⁴ He recounts a son whose wife refused to live under one roof with his mother, and who took his mother and left her in a home for the elderly. ⁵

The Sheikh says that Paradise is forbidden to the one who disobeys his parents. ¹ He cites a saying about three people who do not enter Paradise, the disobedient child among them (needs_source: the list of three is not clear in the transcript). ⁶ He says God made causes for entering Paradise and for entering the Fire, and that disobedience is among the causes of the Fire (needs_source: the second half of this passage is not clear). ⁷ He says that whoever disobeys his parents has two gates of the Fire opened to him. ⁸

The Sheikh describes parents who announce their refusal of a wife chosen by their son, or of a suitor for their daughter, even after the child has been educated. ⁹